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I can’t seem to have an orgasm. I need help, please.

It is not uncommon for women to not achieve orgasm, in fact about 10 to 15% of women do not climax, so you are not alone.

About 75% of all women never reach orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone as direct stimulation of the clitoris is often needed. Make sure that if you are in a relationship it is a healthy one, as it is hard to focus on achieving orgasm when under stress or emotional turmoil.

Masturbation can be helpful to find your own sensitive areas that cause arousal. We often recommend Zestra, an over the counter essential oil that increases blood flow to the genitals. When applied to the clitoris it may help increase desire, arousal and satisfaction.

At our Center for Specialized Women’s Health we fit women for pelvic stimulating devices, and one of the devices, called the Intensity Device, is used to help women achieve orgasm with the help of a clitoral vibrator – all while strengthening your pelvic muscles at the same time. Weak pelvic tone could be another reason you are unable to achieve orgasm, or hormonal disorders.

We recommend you see a health care provider that specializes in sexual health to help determine your best course of action.

All My Best,
Speaking of Women’s Health Nurse

October 15, 2015 at 8:53am

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