Ask the Nurse

Is there anything I can do to revive my low sex drive?

Decreased sex drive is normal throughout the seasons of our life. If your sex drive seems to be waning, the first thing you need to do is examine the quality of your relationship with your sexual partner. Conflicts (financial, in-laws, kids and stress) can and do affect sexual interest. Also, following traditional sexual habits can become routine and boring.

Speak with your partner about your concerns -- this conversation should not occur in the bedroom. Begin sexual activity outside of the bedroom as well, with fantasy, dates and planning for sex. As we age, it takes longer to achieve lubrication and orgasm. I often recommend erotic books, films and movies to get you in the mood.

If vaginal dryness is a problem, consider over-the-counter lubricants and increase foreplay with manual, oral or mechanical stimulators (vibrator). Let your partner know what is happening and what you would like to have happen. Exercise helps, as well as minimizing alcohol or drug use. Certain medications may also contribute to a decrease in libido, so don’t hesitate to discuss your concerns with your doctor.

All My Best,
Speaking of Women's Health Nurse

July 22, 2011 at 2:32pm